Employee Asks for Day Off for Grandfather's Funeral, Boss Makes Him Provide a "Funeral Note"

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Sep 22, 2022 1:30 PM EDT

Horrible bosses really do have no say, don't they? This employee was forced to provide a funeral note after requesting a day off to attend his grandfather's service. 

 

This thread was posted to Reddit's r/antiwork subreddit by u/snaresht, who took a photo of his boss's request. It's actually kind of crazy when you think about the absolute lack of shame here. Even if we don't know the full story about the employee's trustworthiness, some things should be kept off limits. This is precisely the reason why there's an unnecessary stigma against taking sick days and/or mental health days when that is 100% something all workers are entitled to take. Sure, perhaps this person might have had more luck if he or she took a sick day instead, but then that day could potentially take away from, I don't know, a legitimate sick day. Family emergencies should just not be questioned. Full stop. 

 

If we accept "funeral note" requests, what's next? Selfies in front of the casket? A video recording of the service? Leave these people alone! For more ridiculous content about bad employers, here is a story about a worker who was attacked by his boss's dog in the office.

 

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    Brown - r/antiwork Posted by u/snaresht 18 hours ago When my grandfather passed away, my boss asked for a funeral note. Wtf is a funeral note? Optional Day(s) Approved: Vacation Day(s)/ Week Approved: Management Only: 5/13/22 Approved Management Signature & Date Comment: Denied CK 5/4/22 Employee Copy 4. please provide funeral note upon. return.
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    Font - allOfherheart 18 hr. ago 4 S Funeral director here PLEASE ask the funeral director for a "note" - I would absolutely LOVE to write a note to a boss for a grieving client. If they're like me - they'll write the snarkiest f letter possible. If they're confused by it - they'll give you an extra print out of the obituary and possibly give you a copy that names you - "beloved nephew/niece _____” even if it wasn't circulated that way - it takes us .2 seconds to edit it and print it FOR YOU. 6.8
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    Font - Pikepride2000. 14 hr. ago Funeral directors have always been amazing guides during the grieving process. 2.7k Reply Share
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    Font - LordWobbuffet 7 hr. ago edited 7 hr. ago Can confirm. One of my uncles is a funeral director and he is the kindest person I know. Love that man to death. Reply Share 1.1k
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    Font - Accomplished-Plan191 7 hr. ago Looks like crypt humor runs in the family. Reply Share 587 pocahontasmcglinchey. 6 hr. ago One of the funeral directors in the town I grew up employed a Mr Black, Mr Grey & Mr Dyer... 210 Reply Share
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    Font - Towtruck_73 10 hr. ago Guess they have plenty of experience in helping people navigate the process. For a moment I thought a "funeral note" was like a "preliminary death certificate," like a cover note as far as insurance goes; you get a cover note of insurance before the insurance is formalised. A death certificate can take weeks to be issued, so getting a note from the funeral director would be like getting a sick note from a doctor. 156 Reply Share
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    Font - MCSqueegie Somebody 43 6 hr. ago has to put the fun back in funeral. Reply Share
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    Font - Zecharael 10 hr. ago What I don't get is if an employer doesn't trust their own employees, why would they trust someone else in another business? Better yet, if they think the employee is lying, why would they trust that any letter they bring is genuine? Perhaps since they think their employee is a child, they'd prefer the letter to come from the funeral director's mother, just to be safe. Reply Share 430
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    Font - Dhiox 6 hr. ago What I don't get is if an employer doesn't trust their own employees, why would they trust someone else in another business? Yeah, if you can't trust any of your employees, then the problem is you, not the employees. Either you aren't paying enough to be able to get trustworthy employees or you are treating them badly enough that none of them respect their employer. 135 Reply Share
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    Font - 8BitLong 4 hr. ago if an employer doesn't trust their own employees, why would they I don't understand how any manager can be like this. If you do not trust your employee is better to part ways. I couldn't imagine not trusting my employee's. I normally give them the keys of the castle on the first day of work, and a week later, once they found their way around, I teach them how to break in, so if they forget their keys, they have a alternative entrance mode! :)
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    Font - VovaGoFuckYourself 4 hr. ago Now I'm actually curious... Are there laws against forging a doctor's note (or funeral note) for your employer? ↑ 13 ↓ Reply Share Mustbhacks 4 hr. ago As long as you are not trying to pretend to be someone/thing specific I highly doubt there is 10 Reply Share
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    Font - VovaGoFuckYourself 2 hr. ago That's also assuming a person has paid sick days. I do. But my employer has never asked me for proof I'm actually sick. It was always the shy no-benefits jobs that always wanted doctors' notes in my experience.
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    Font - alysurr 3 hr. ago my manager once questioned why my late grandfather had a different last name than me. my mom and i don't even have the same last name.
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    Font - Zestyclose_Shop_9334 8 hr. ago attach a selfie of you infront of coffins. ↑ 177 Reply Share
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    Font - Worshaw 7 hr. ago Get a copy of the bill too and hand it to him. Say I'm assuming you're paying for this since you were an about this. Reply Share 82
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